Acceptance versus denial of a diagnosis

The idea: When you accept a diagnosis of dementia rather than remain in denial, wonderful things can happen. Leeanne Chames of the Facebook group Memory People encourages acceptance.


Hi, I’m Leeanne Chames and I’m an Administrator at Memory People, an Alzheimer’s and Memory Impairment Support and Awareness group on Facebook.  I joined the group after my Mother-in-Law was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and have found a strong support system there.  Patients, caregivers, and advocates all walk this road together and find loving support for this journey.
I think it's the stories told by those who live with this disease—and by those who are walking it with them—that most effectively bring support and awareness.  I believe it all begins with us, when each one of us, either as a patient or a caregiver are confronted with the reality of this disease.  In that pain and sadness, we are faced with the acceptance or denial of it.   If we don’t accept it, we allow denial a foothold, and there is simply no time for denial with this disease. Alzheimer’s does not wait for us to accept it.
When we do let this in to our hearts and take a step toward acceptance, I've seen a wonderful thing happen. In the midst of the pain, we can find a relationship and a level of connection with our loved one that many never find. Life becomes more precious, time becomes more treasured, and we, in our awareness, can in turn bring awareness to others and impact their lives.
I invite you, if you or a loved one has been touched by Alzheimer's, to find the loving support that I have, at Memory People.  Just type “Memory People” into your Facebook search bar, and click on Join Group.  It has been life changing for me, and many others on this road.
All the best,
Leeanne Chames
Published on 07 September 2011
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